YOU and ME

What is common between Sachin Tendulkar, Brian Lara and Ramakrishna (me) … think …socho ….. didn’t get the answer ? … your English teacher must be the most unhappy person in the world now…. They are all proper nouns!!. Ok this is not about Sachin or Lara but this is about you and me.

How many times have we thought it would have been better to be someone else ? I bet every person in the world would have felt the same at point in his/her life. Finally all that matters is being yourself. Whenever we see someone we know becoming famous there is always a small voice inside which says “why not u? or sometimes why him/her? “. Although most people don’t show it outside it is always there (isn’t it??). why aren’t we outgoing as some others ? These things wouldn’t have mattered much some twenty or thirty years ago, but now in the so called “competitive age” we think it matters much because it gives the other person an unfair (ok, fair) advantage over us. With only 30 odd percentage left (others are already reserved) in every field (except toilets I guess) it puts a lot of pressure on today’s youngsters. One, they cant get over their inherent shy nature to overcome some hurdles added to that is the fear of losing out on the basis of reservation.

So, it is only natural that we feel jealous of our own friends even when we know they are a lot better than us in every field. If you say all these things to a psychiatrist, he would probably say we should feel happy with what we have, infact he will also point out to some homeless people and say “ see how lucky you are! You have nice home, good school education, a degree …blah blah ... Other bullshit follows”

But there is something which we shouldn’t forget, if we try to not be ourselves by being someone else we will end up in doldrums which can be verified from “gamblers ruin”. Gamblers ruin is a theory believed by many mathematicians around the world. Everytime a person gambles there is a equal chance of him either winning or losing. So you would think that in the end one’s loses will equal his gains. But that is not so in reality, let us say that two people play a game of flipping a coin. One person wins a rupee if it is head and the other wins if it’s a tail. At the start of the game one person A has suppose 90Rs and the other person B has Rs10. If suppose they play hundred such games then naturally A has a probability of winning 90% of the games so gaining 90*10 rupees but on the other hand he will also lose 10% i.e 10*90 . But being in a better position the richer person A will gamble more hence increasing his chances of losing. Thereby after a long series of games the richer person is bound to lose. One can ask the question as to how this is related to our topic. So…. if we start mimicking others without equipping ourselves and without being ourselves we will end up in the losing side again. It is always better to equip ourselves.

Since we can’t make others less competitive (there are some ways ..law does not approve them J ) let us try to make ourselves more competitive, there are a lot of ways to express to express yourself now, one sure way is this … .. if I had said all the above crap face-to-face I wouldn’t have a face left tomorrow.

"Never argue with an idiot. They will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience"